Maybe I am getting older, or my style palate is changing but I am really feeling clean lines, less colour and more staple pieces in my wardrobe lately. Black is my preferred colour of choice these days and you may see me mix it up with Nudes, Grey, Navy blue and the occasional African Print when I want to get all Black Girl Magic on folk. I shot these looks earlier this year to help illustrate my new appreciation for well… “The power of simplicity.”
I am in love with all things minimalism lately. After watching a documentary on Netflix called “The Minimalists” I was so intrigued by the message I decided to subscribe to their podcast and then read the book all created by Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus. Without giving too much away, their entire message really moved me in a way nothing had before. Joshualovingly shares his final memories of loosing his Mother to Cancer and how it made him re-evaluate what was truly important in his life. That really resonated with me deeply because at the time my now late Mother was really ill also and I just remembered feeling so overwhelmed with work, life and idea of working at a Job I hated to accumulate “stuff” meanwhile time was slipping away with my Mother.
I decided to take two years off work to embark on a personal healing journey and to spend time with my Mom. In those two years my income dropped significantly and I had to learn to rely on just what I needed to survive, even though my cash flow was limited I found that I was at peace and doing things that really felt good to me such as taking my Mom for walks in her wheel chair, or riding the Bus to take my Daughter to Music Class, even though I did not have the fancy amenities I had grown accustom, it helped me realize the one thing that was truly important to me and it was NOT having “stuff”…it was the blessing of good love and healthy relationships.
Sadly just as I decided to head back to work earlier this year, my Mom passed away. Even though I miss her like crazy, I am at peace because I took the minimalist journey which gave me the quality time I needed with her. That is why I am aspiring to continue with the a more Minimalist lifestyle. It creates peace when you shift your focus from things, to experiences and love.
Minimalism for me has really helped me re-evaluate my own life and the things I used to put value in. It has inspired me to move out of this massive Apartment I share with my only child and downsize to something more comfy, cozy, intimate and affordable. It has taught me the joy of living within my means and how much more I can enjoy life when I stop using my time to chase and attain things, but rather use my life to be a positive force or a blessing to someone else.
I can’t lie, I still fall slave to the shopping bug every now and then, but I must say my purchases have become in my opinion classical, timeless, simple yet elegant or better yet meaningful. Over the past few months I have sold/donated over 15 garbage bags of clothing. YIKES!!! I realized that I was accumulating all these “things” and loosing sight of what truly mattered in my life. Meaningful relationships with amazing humans, quality time with my Daughter Aniyah and personal and spiritual growth.
Because of this new found personal awakening, my personal style aesthetic has taken a hit and I’m not mad at! For the next while you will see my style morph into simple yet powerful…kinda like who I believe am growing to be. *Smiles*
Thanks for letting me share some of my Journey with you, feel free to comment, share or ask questions, I’m here for it all.
Until Next Time Loves,
This entire you look is from Canadian Plus Size Retailer Addition Elle. This look is not sponsored and it is completely styled by me. 😉
Photo Credit: Elliot Parrott